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Welcome to the Mutton Club!

The online home for all women in midlife and beyond, who want to make the most of their lives, be inspired, have a giggle and find cool stuff.


My name is Rachel Lankester and I’m the founder of the Mutton Club. The Mutton Club is all about challenging stereotypes of older women and transforming midlife into a time of excitement and fulfilment. In our youth-obsessed culture, midlife can be a time of great uncertainty and questioning for many women. I want to turn around the negative connotations of the UK saying, ‘Mutton dressed as lamb’ referring to a woman who tries too hard to look a lot younger than she is. I want us to be proud to be mutton, to have arrived, to recognise our experience and wisdom. Being mutton can be something to aspire to rather than be afraid of!  The Mutton Club is here to support and empower women, and show the world we’re not going to be marginalised as we age.

Paraphrasing Ashton Applewhite, I refuse to accept that this older version of me is, or will ever be, inferior to the younger model I once was! I’m getting better as I age,
maturing like a great red wine. I’m just getting started on living MY life, the one I want to live, rather than the one I kind of slipped into and which worked well for quite a while, but which no longer challenged or fulfilled me. If you’d like to hear straight from the sheep’s mouth on what the Mutton Club is all about and why I set it up, you can listen to my interview on Radio Gorgeous!

Does this sound like you?

  • I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next? Where do I fit in? What’s my role now?
  • My… career is flat/parents need care/kids are (nearly) gone/life purpose is  – what life purpose? I’m feeling lost in the middle!
  • I have so much to offer but the world seems to be writing me off.
  • I’m suffering with menopause symptoms but no one talks about it and I don’t know where to get help.

That’s how I felt

For a long time I was plagued with self-doubt. I had this nagging feeling I was supposed to be doing something else, but what? I read some books and did some courses and began to re-evaluate what was important to me and what no longer was.   I began to think more pro-actively about managing my life rather than just letting it happen to me. I began to trust my gut and to explore new ideas I would once have dismissed as self-indulgent or just plain bonkers.

And that’s how the Mutton Club was born –  to create a community for all women, that acknowledges our differences but celebrates what we all have in common. One that provides inspiration and information to help us transition through menopause and from one half of our lives to the next. A virtual flock that provides support and encouragement. So our sheep imagery is not about following blindly, but about the strength that comes when The Flock has your back.

What do you need help with or inspiration for?

We have all sorts of different information on the Mutton Club. If you’re new, (which you probably are, as you’re here!) you’ll find links to some of our most popular and useful posts below:


Jen LehnerMidlife reinventioninspiring stories from regular but also extraordinary women who’ve changed their and or other people’s lives



thriving through the menopauseMenopause helpyoga for menopause, keeping you sexy, alcohol and the menopause, how to thrive through it, food for menopause symptoms



how to be a good mother-in-lawRelationshipsgreat sex in midlife, how to get the best orgasm, amicable divorce, how to be a good mother-in-law



parental careCaring for parentsparents and alzheimer’s, care optionsbest to plan ahead, lasting power of attorney



keeping teens safe onlineDigital life – teens and sexting, protecting digital assets, the ULTIMATE guide to keeping teens safe online



pensionMoneywhat not to do with your pension pot, sorting out your willthe midlife paygap




FGMWomen’s issues – ovarian cancer, women on boards, FGM, life after breast cancerviolence against women especially the Yazidis




IMG_2821Travel inspirationMyanmar, USA roadtrip, Iceland, Kenyan safari, Cuba, Jordan desert trek




IMG_4001End of lifemaking a will, how to avoid funeral disputes, what to do when someone dies



Also, check our archives where you’ll find lots of other interesting stuff. You’ll find an archive search in the footer below or just dig around in our category pages. If you’d like to know about our favourite online resources and what we use to make the Mutton Club tick, check out our Cool Tools.

If you’d like to meet other Muttoneers and take part in our online community please join our private Facebook group, The Flock.

Welcome! If there’s anything else you’d like to see on the Mutton Club or you’d like to contribute, please get in touch at info at